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Love

    

        Love is a simple word, just four letters combined to define a complex feeling(emotion). For years, I was under impression that love is a mix of feelings, some like desire and passion that burn the soul and leave some deep traces into our souls, some like peace and summer breeze leaving us in a state of awe.

   I have been contemplating lately to past and  new relationships and what my definition of love would be.  Mostly, I've been thinking of one of my past relationships. I was invested heart and soul, with all the package. We went to a party and he got few drinks way to fast. Although, I was a few meters aways he was bragging to someone about how much I love him and I quote:

                "No matter what I do, Ana will never leave me. She loves me too much.".

      It was the moment I realized it was not love. It was anything else besides love. It was the moment I realized the relationship is at the end. It lasted tops two weeks from that moment.

      I always wanted someone to take into consideration my feelings before I would take them into consideration. The highest form of love would be how your actions impact your partner. For instance, if my partner goes drinking with his friend and the next day due to hangover we cancel our plans together, I would appreciate an apology from himself for not spending time before I have the chance to articulate a word about it.

      Before going into a relationship, find your love definition. You may start from love language and continue to how you want your partner assure you that you are seen and heard. Think of the highest form of love you may offer and you may receive. After you make the list, think if you are able to offer it back to your partner or if you still need to work on yourself. 


 

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