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Godparents

           Recently, I have discussed with my current partner about wedding. He didn't propose or anything. It is a good exercise for both of us and how we position ourselves towards the people in our life. It is one thing when you are single and other thing when you are a couple. The same exercise I have done with my previous partner. That was also because we met through a couple, I was her best friend, while he was his best friend. 

        Can you chose the godparents only because you enjoy spending time with them? Or should anyone consider other criteria? My boyfriend made a point when discussing this matter, that it should be a couple one can count of.  When you are in need, they are the one's to go to for any kind of matter. That made me think that godparents are much more responsible on how they handle their relationships. I heard it through grapevine that godparents should help the couple see the similarities, when all they see are separate ways. When all is fire, they should be the Earth to control it. It may be through advices, through how they bring together the couple. 

      Going to my previous relationship and the couple we both considered friends, it just hit me. Before going separate ways, we hit a rock bottom in the relationship. Together with this couple we went to the seaside. During that small holiday we had a serious fight/discussion. At some point, the boys had their time while us, the girls, had out time. In the boys discussion, he received one hell of advise: It seems like both of you are not happy in this relationship. Why don't you break-up? After we returned from that getaway, we actually broke-up. 

        To the person that gave that advice: Can you honestly say you were happy everyday in your relationship?  Can you honestly say that you never had fights and tough times in your relationship? Should I trust your future advices?

        As this came during this time as sore point and as a full rage moment, I am able to admit with all my love to my friends and I am still angry for your advice. I felt betrayed and I still feel it. At that time, you were considered role models and your advices weigh in so much. As for the current state of affairs, we may only start spending time together. 

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