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The uncomfortable comfort

      I have been thinking for a while to write about how  uncomfortable is a comfortable and healthy relationship, when your brain is wired still to unhealthy programs. I've been dreaming for a while to meet someone that is able to contain my emotions, to love me as I am and to reassure me that everything will be fine.         I found that person in my current boyfriend. Now I live and Feel what my mind imagined 2-3 years ago. When you meet someone that accepts the way you are, your brain is wired to sabotage what you have i different ways. For instance, my boyfriend listens and sees me and my needs, but my body decided it is not enough. In the last 5 month I gained weight, around 15 kilograms and 3 numbers in clothes. It was a shock for myself and I usually get so frustrated. When I needed to buy clothes I took him for a ride in mall to help me pick new pants. I just loved his reaction in reassuring me that he can still love when I gained w...
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Renting my baby

           I've been going through a lot of changes and challenges lately. As I moved in autumn at my boyfriend's place, I kept for a while my place free. Almost one year. This winter I paid utilities almost 100 EUR, which I found quite a lot for a house I don't live in. I discussed with my boyfriend to take all my precious books from there and have a space dedicated in his house.              Beside the logistics of moving my library to my boyfriends house, I also needed to handle a lot of documents so that I can officially be the administrator. This is the house I renovated. I was thought it is important because I chose every piece of material with my hand. I went two or three times to the stores so that I can decide on the type of sandstone I want. I watched two times the documentaries related on interior design on Netflix just to think to the flow I want to have in the room.          ...

HOME

       There has been so much going on in the last two weeks that I am not sure how to tell it to you. I went on two hikes both quite difficult while I was discovering so much about myself. On May Day, we started our trip to Brasov from Bucharest. On our way to what would be our home for a couple of days, we stopped at my mom's place. The entire time I felt like I am going home, home in a spiritual way. I felt so much gratitude for everything and everyone. This comes from a person that would only dream of feeling this.      Four years ago I was in a relationship with a person who would reflect every pain I have. I still remember to this day that we were gathered in his kitchen, his mom and dad and us. He was comfortably staying on the sofa, while I was discussing with his mom in his kitchen. I have it graved in my memories when he told smiling: " We are alike. You are a runaway. The only difference between you and I is that you also physically runaway ...

Godparents

              Recently, I have discussed with my current partner about wedding. He didn't propose or anything. It is a good exercise for both of us and how we position ourselves towards the people in our life. It is one thing when you are single and other thing when you are a couple. The same exercise I have done with my previous partner. That was also because we met through a couple, I was her best friend, while he was his best friend.           Can you chose the godparents only because you enjoy spending time with them? Or should anyone consider other criteria? My boyfriend made a point when discussing this matter, that it should be a couple one can count of.  When you are in need, they are the one's to go to for any kind of matter. That made me think that godparents are much more responsible on how they handle their relationships. I heard it through grapevine that godparents should help the couple see the simi...

Love and growth

           I've been thinking for a while in writing about relationships. What I can tell you is that I never had an example of a healthy relationship in my entire family. I don't mention my parents relationship as they were not able to reach agreement on joint custody and visiting hours. I also mention the extended family.  I've been raised by a single parent and the hardships of a relationship were hidden from my eyes.           My friends mentioned to me that I am the Creator of my relationships and I can build what I call "my perfect relationship". My friend also mentioned that I am not able  to request from my partner what I am not and that I will need to work out on my fears, traumas etc. It happens that my partner will trigger all my traumas while he will create the space to heal. There will be a dance between us.       What my friends were saying at that time seemed otherworldly, but their words...

Beauty in hardships

        It's been a while since my last time a wrote an article on my blog. My life has been like a rollercoaster, with highs and lows. I am not sure with what I should start first and tell you.         One of the painful moments was when I realized that my dream job is no longer my dream job. I have encountered some stressful situations at work. Those moments of tension put me in a state of freeze, where literally I get cold feet and hands. Admitting that my current job is toxic was a shock to myself. The moment I realized this, I took action like searching for a new job and quitting. The hard truth is that I don't quit easily, this is why in the past I would stay in toxic relationships until I would spend my last resource of energy (health and wealth). In any case, when I say wealth I refer to a state of mind related to wealth, not money. Money are just means to achieve/buy things that we want.          Th...

Love

              Love is a simple word, just four letters combined to define a complex feeling(emotion). For years, I was under impression that love is a mix of feelings, some like desire and passion that burn the soul and leave some deep traces into our souls, some like peace and summer breeze leaving us in a state of awe.    I have been contemplating lately to past and  new relationships and what my definition of love would be.  Mostly, I've been thinking of one of my past relationships. I was invested heart and soul, with all the package. We went to a party and he got few drinks way to fast. Although, I was a few meters aways he was bragging to someone about how much I love him and I quote:                 "No matter what I do, Ana will never leave me. She loves me too much.".         It was the moment I realized it was not love. It was anything else besides love....